Some adults thrive on stress. And there’s plenty of that to go around in today’s economic environment with unemployment in Illinois the highest it’s been in 25 years.

But stress and children don’t mix.

When they sense stress and anxiety, their body chemistry goes into survival mode, releasing adrenaline, raising their heart rate, and increasing their breathing. Sometimes, this can lead children to “act out” in ways that surprise us, even in spite of themselves. Over time, stress and anxiety can have seriously negative impact on the social and emotional development of our children.

So, with our state’s three million children spending more time at home during the summer months, it’s important to protect them from the stress and anxiety we might be feeling, even in tough times like these.

Here are some ideas.

First, remember that whatever stress or anxiety you might be feeling is not your child’s fault and there’s probably very little, if anything, he or she can do about it. So don’t put the burden on them.

This is not to suggest that you shouldn’t educate your children about the value of money and manage their expectations about what you can and cannot afford. But, arguing about money in front of your kids only increases their anxiety and might even trigger feelings of guilt about a situation beyond their control.

Second, spend quality time with your kids. Find time every day to stop what you’re doing, put aside whatever stress or anxiety you’re feeling, and get down on the floor to play, sit down together and read a book, or take a walk. It’ll reassure them and relax you. And it won’t cost you a penny!

Third, make sure the lines of communication between you and your child are wide open. Ask them how they feel and really listen to their answers. Reassure them that everything will be okay, and let them know you’ll love and take care of them no matter what.

Fourth, find new ways to interact with and entertain your children. Going to the public library together to check out a free movie or CD, for example, is not only a good lesson for your child in money management, it’s also a great opportunity for bonding. A trip to a thrift store or consignment shop for a new pair of shoes can be turned into an adventure. Instead of ordering in a pizza, buy the ingredients and make it yourself with your child. You’ll undoubtedly save money and have fun all at the same time.

And finally, don’t ignore any warning signs of anxiety, stress, fear or depression in your child. You know your child’s behaviors and moods better than anyone and you know when they change. Sleeplessness (or too much sleep), changes in appetite, signs of withdrawal or lack of enjoyment in activities that used to entertain your child could be a signal that all is not well. Trust your instincts. If you’re worried, talk with someone you trust, like your doctor or your child’s teacher.

Good mental health is a core component of the overall health and wellbeing of every child in our state. How they feel emotionally impacts how they feel physically, and vice versa.

If you need a mental health referral for yourself or your child, or for more information, call 1.866.359.7953 (or 1.866.880.4459 TTY).